From Setbacks to Success: The Role of Coaching in Developing Resilience

Have you ever felt like you hit rock bottom? Ever been in a situation where you have no idea what to do and everything seems overwhelming? And yet, you kept going until you found your way out (or back to the top)?

If so, then, my dear reader, your resilience muscle is strong.

In my recent podcast conversation with a fellow coach, Annemarie Janssens, we briefly discussed resilience and why it matters, especially when we talk about building a work-life balance. According to Annemarie,

Resilience helps us be the best person we want to be. By having the emotional and psychological flexibility, we are more likely to bounce back from life events.

Annemarie Janssens

There are so many aspects of resilience that we can work on and improve in order to help us live a more fulfilled life. I decided to use this opportunity and write a little on how coaching helps us build resilience.

If you’d like to learn more about building work-life balance and how resilience plays into it, feel free to listen to the podcast episode I did with Annemarie.

Now, let’s get back to coaching and resilience.

What is Resilience?

In a nutshell, resilience means being able to bounce-back from difficult or challenging situations in life. It involves adapting positively to stress, trauma, or significant life changes. Resilient individuals are better equipped to maintain their mental well-being, make effective decisions under pressure, and persevere in the pursuit of their goals.

Why is Resilience Important?

Resilience matters because it helps us navigate challenging situations with a positive outlook. It helps us thrive in uncertainty and keeps us going towards our goals when it gets tough.

Here are some reasons why developing resilience should be on your list this year.

Mental Well-Being

Building resilience is closely linked to maintaining good mental health. The more resilient you are, the more equipped you are to cope with stress and adversity. This, in turn, reduces the risk of developing mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.

Resilient individuals tend to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles.

Effective Decision-Making

In general, resilient individuals are more likely to make sound decisions under pressure. As you build your resilience, you increase your capacity to stay calm and focused during challenging situations. That helps you use your problem-solving skills to be able to find solutions rather than get overwhelmed and drown in stress and anxiety.

Enhanced Relationships

Resilience can be very important in interpersonal relationships. Being able to bounce back from conflicts and setbacks makes it easier to maintain healthy connections with others. The ability to communicate effectively, show empathy, and handle disagreements constructively contributes to building and sustaining meaningful relationships.

What is the Role of Coaching in Developing Resilience?


Working with a coach is all about getting to know yourself better. You get to explore your strengths and weaknesses and you learn about your triggers. This deeper understanding of yourself is essential for resilience. Coaches help you identify patterns of thinking and behavior which gives you the ability to adapt and respond positively to challenges.

Goal Setting and Planning

One of the first things you do with a coach is set goals. Coaches encourage individuals to set realistic and achievable goals and guide them to then break those goals down into smaller, more manageable tasks. This process helps build a sense of accomplishment and progress and it encourages resilience by instilling a mindset focused on continuous improvement and success.

Cognitive Restructuring

Through coaching, you learn to reframe negative thought patterns. Coaches guide individuals in challenging and changing unhelpful beliefs, fostering a more positive and resilient mindset. This cognitive restructuring empowers you to face challenges with a constructive outlook, promoting adaptability and perseverance.

Skill Development

Working with a coach often involves skill-building exercises customized to your needs. As you acquire new skills or refine existing ones, you become more confident in your abilities to handle diverse challenges. This increased competence contributes significantly to building resilience.

Emotional Intelligence

So many of us struggle with uncomfortable emotions and feelings and we try whatever we can to avoid them. All we want for them is to go away and often develop unhealthy habits in trying to shove them under the rug.

Annemarie Janssens

If you feel like that often, then working with a coach can be so beneficial. A coaching process can help you develop or improve your emotional intelligence. That means that you’ll be able to better recognize and manage your emotions. Understanding your emotions and those of the people you interact with promotes better communication, conflict resolution, and overall emotional resilience.

All Said and Done

As we go through life, we face many challenges and setback, even on a daily level. Developing resilience can help you thrive in life because you’ll be able to address those challenges with a more positive outlook and less stress and anxiety.

One way to develop resilience is to work with a coach. By fostering a supportive and safe environment for you to work on your growth, coaching not only enhances your ability to navigate challenges but also sets you on a path to long-term success and fulfillment.

If you’d like to work with a coach who will help you develop your resilience, click on the button below to schedule a free call with me. Let’s make 2024 your best year so far.