Not the kind that comes from forgetting a friend’s birthday (we’ve all been there), but the kind that sneaks in when you’re juggling work deadlines, family commitments, and self-care, yet feel like you’re failing at all of them.

As a leader, entrepreneur, or manager, this feeling might be all too familiar. You’re busy building something meaningful, but that inner voice whispers: “You should’ve done more at work today. You should’ve spent more time with your family. You should’ve hit the gym.”

Sound familiar?

Why We Feel This Way

Guilt often stems from high expectations. Society rewards being busy, and we often internalize this as always needing to be “on.” Whether it’s the pressure to succeed, the desire to be present at home, or the drive to lead effectively, it’s easy to feel pulled in all directions.

But here’s the thing: guilt doesn’t make you better at any of these roles. If anything, it drains your energy and keeps you stuck in a cycle of overwork and self-doubt.

Yes, I know….you may already know all of this, but it’s easier said than done.

And I agree. It’s hard to get rid of the feeling that no matter what you do, there’s always something else that you could have done.

My point is: feeling this way won’t help you move. It’ll just get you stuck and frozen.

The Impact of Guilt

Guilt in itself is not always a bad feeling. This can be our body’s reminder to check in with ourselves and see whether we’re still on the right path.

But if it’s there ALL the time and you do nothing about it…then, it can become an issue.

Unchecked guilt can lead to burnout, resentment, and decision fatigue. It can make you second-guess your priorities and even damage your relationships, both at work and home. And when you carry that weight for too long, it starts to feel normal – even though it’s not.

So, how can you break free from the guilt trap and find a healthier balance?

Practical Ways to Manage Guilt

Get Clear on Your Priorities

Not everything can be urgent, and not everything can be done right now. Write down what truly matters – both in work and life. Think about what aligns with your long-term goals and values.

Try this

Create two lists: “What must be done this week?” and “What can wait?” Stick to them, and give yourself permission to focus. Review the lists at the end of the week, learn from your experience and adjust for the next week.

Redefine Success

Success doesn’t mean checking every box. It’s about making consistent progress toward your goals and being present in the moments that matter.

Reframe this thought

Instead of saying, “I didn’t finish my entire to-do list,” try, “I accomplished the most important things today.” And if you didn’t, make sure you focus on the most important things tomorrow.

Set Healthy Boundaries

Saying “no” is hard, but it’s a skill worth mastering. It’s okay to let your team know you’re unavailable after a certain hour or to dedicate a no-meetings day for deep work. Boundaries aren’t selfish, they’re necessary.

Note: Setting boundaries doesn’t always mean saying “no”. It’s often more about what you do want and what makes you feel good rather than what you want to avoid or stop doing.

Ask yourself: “What’s one boundary I can set this week to protect my energy?”

Practice Self-Compassion

You can’t pour from an empty cup, and beating yourself up won’t make you more productive. If you feel drained, forcing yourself to do just one more thing may just be a tipping point that will spiral you to burnout, sickness or anything else along those lines.

Not to mention that when you push yourself to do things and you’re at your 10%, things will get done A LOT slower, more mistakes will be made and you’ll do a worse job than if you’d given yourself time to rest and then tackled the issue at hand.

Treat yourself the way you’d encourage a team member: with kindness and understanding.

Remind yourself: “I’m doing my best with what I have today.” And regularly check with yourself what your best is on any given day.

Final Thoughts

Guilt isn’t a badge of honor, and it’s not a sign that you care more. It’s a signal that something might need adjusting – whether it’s your mindset, your priorities, or your boundaries.

So, the next time guilt creeps in, pause. Ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way? What messages am I sending myself? What am I trying to accomplish?” and when you have answers to these questions, then ask yourself: “What’s truly important right now?”

Then let go of everything else and focus on what matters.

Please, remember: you’re already doing so much more than you give yourself credit for.

Over to You:

What’s one small step you’ll take today to manage guilt and protect your energy? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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Sadly, there are many people going to work not feeling up to it, but doing it just because they have to make money somehow. Well, to all leads, supervisors and managers out there, I say, “It’s high time we started helping those people feel appreciated“. If you’re one of those already doing it, kudos to you. Just keep up the good work.

Making people feel appreciated is really not a rocket science. In fact, it’s very simple and it takes very little time, but it does require attention and, more than anything else, willingness to do it. In this article, I’ve listed 5 ways I’ve been using as a manager to motivate my team and make them feel appreciated at work.

1. ASK FOR THEIR OPINION

There is a reason you have a team. If you could do it all by yourself, then you wouldn’t need a team, right?! So, if you’ve got a team, make sure to ask them for their opinion on topics and issues at hand. Each of your team members is good at something so why not use that expertise when it’s within your reach (sometimes, literally)?

I know it’s hard to let go and sometimes it’s even easier to do something on your own, but remember that you don’t have to do it that way. In addition to that, asking for someone else’s opinion may result in generating great ideas you wouldn’t think of on your own.

By showing interest in the knowledge and ideas of your team and coworkers, you are showing them that they are valued and appreciated and they will, in return, value you more for it.

2. HEAR THEM OUT

Being interrupted as you speak is so annoying, not to mention rude. Yes, I know some people like to talk more than you have the time to listen to, but let them talk. You can always have a 1-on-1 talk with that person later and explain that s/he needs to be a bit more concise the next time.

Not letting people complete their thought or speak up when they have something to share says that you don’t really care about their opinion, which is not a culture you want to create in your company and/or team. Even if you’re not doing it intentionally, make sure to work on your reactions and change them accordingly because you’ll end up working with people who have nothing to say and that usually means that they’ve stopped trying.

3. TRUST THEIR JUDGEMENT

This is especially important for senior people on your team. Once you’ve been working with someone for quite some time, you’re most definitely at a point where you know what he or she can and cannot do. If that’s the case, then just let them do their job and make sure to check in on them from time to time. Trust them that they know what they’re doing.

It takes time to reach this stage, but I always enjoy it very much. I try really hard to train every person I work with to be responsible and accountable for their work. That way, when they want to do something, they know I trust them to go ahead and get the job done. There are many ways to do it, but my favorite one is definitely through questions.

If you’re often giving advice or telling people how to do something, you could be diminishing their sense of autonomy. But if you are asking questions designed to guide them to finding their own solutions, then you are leaving them in control. – David Burkus

It’s worked for me every single time. You just need to learn how to ask the right questions and guide people accordingly.

4. RECOGNIZE THEIR SUCCESS

People love praise. Hearing a “well done”, “you’ve done a great job”, “that was so good, you did great” makes us feel good about the work we do, the place where we work and about ourselves.

Sometimes, we get so focused on the progress that we forget that it is people who are the ones responsible for that progress. Don’t be shy when it comes to praise. It’s such a small gesture but it means so much to the other person.

5. REMEMBER THE DETAILS

As a team leader, it is your job to care for the people you work with. Sometimes, that means asking about their day, their family or anything else along those lines. Yes, I know that life is busy and it’s hard to keep up with everything, but when at work, be at work.

You’d be surprised by how much it means to people when their team leader asks about a kid’s play or that doctor’s appointment, or getting that car fixed. It’s minute, I know, and not so relevant in the grand scheme of things, but when it comes to your relationship with the team, it can mean the world on some days. So, whenever you can, try to remember those details. Your team will greatly appreciate you as their leader for it.

Well, there you go. As I said, it’s pretty simple but it does require effort and some will on your part. It really is up to you as a leader to decide whether you want to do it or not, but really, I don’t see the harm in it whereas the benefits are massive, wouldn’t you agree?

Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comment section below. I’d love to read them.

Until the next article, keep learning and growing.

Sneza

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Every good leader is part manager and every good manager is part leader. – Condoleezza Rice

This quote is exactly how I feel about leaders and managers. Even though leaders and managers may have a different set of skills, I think that the only way to succeed as a manager is to both lead and manage people and projects. As Marcus Buckingham says:

Great managers know and value the unique abilities and even the eccentricities of their employees, and they learn how best to integrate them into a coordinated plan of attack.

So, here’s a list of qualities I find important in a good manager.

Being Transparent

People tend to assume a lot, which most of the time leads to miscommunication. As a manager, it is your job to make things as clear as possible. Avoid long digressions, try to be as organized as possible when you speak, and make sure to always ask at the end if there are any questions. It often takes time for people to process new information so make sure to encourage them to contact or approach you later if they have nothing to ask at the moment.

Whenever possible, share as much information as possible. Giving your team additional information can help them understand the task or the problem better. Don’t assume someone else will inform them about the issue at hand. It is better to repeat the info than not share it at all. Sharing is caring and the same goes for knowledge and information when it comes to teamwork.

BEING A GOOD LISTENER

Listening well is more than a matter of talking less. – Adam Grant

In his article for Ideas Ted, Adam Grant talks about the art of listening. He says that good listening starts with showing more interest in other people’s interests rather than just waiting on your turn to share your own opinion or prove the other person wrong.

Good managers seek their team’s opinion, especially when the team members have more knowledge on the matter at hand. Even if that’s not the case, you should hear your team out. After all, you are collaborating on a project and the more you invite them to share, the more invested they will be in the project because they will feel they are being heard.

Being a good listener is hard, but it’s an acquired skill. According to Adam Grant, 94% of managers who evaluated themselves as good listeners had been rated as the worst listeners by their employees. So, next time you are anxious to share, take a deep breath and actually try to listen first.

KNOWING HOW TO DELEGATE

More often than not, managers are good problem solvers. They have been working hard to get to the position of a manager and once they are there, they just keep going in the same rhythm. However, once you start being responsible for more people and more projects, following the same pace you had while you were climbing up the ladder is just not doable. The sooner you learn to delegate, the better. Simply put, you’ll be able to do your job better if you know how to delegate.

Knowing how to delegate not only helps you do your job better but it also helps you team. As Amanda Miller states in her article on management, “When a leader swoops in to fix every problem, they’re robbing the members of their team of the chance to learn and grow.” If you’re micromanaging, you’re not allowing your team to improve, make mistakes and learn from them. According to Amanda, you can learn to delegate by giving up some old duties and doing it openly because only when you are completely explicit will the people be encouraged to take action.

Finally, delegating tasks to your team builds trust and the team feels more motivated to do better because they know you depend on them to get the job done.

ASKING FOR FEEDBACK

This is one of the most important things for me as a manager. I tend to seek feedback whenever possible because it is the one safe way to know what you are doing well and what you need to improve. By encouraging the culture of feedback, you are letting your team know that you care about their opinion of you as their manager and that you are willing to learn and grow with their help.

By empowering your subordinates with specific requests, you’ll not only get their honest feedback but you’ll also show that you want to break your bad habits and welcome their assistance to do so. – Amanda Miller

The sooner you start asking for feedback in your career, the better. People are more willing to give you feedback early in your career, when you are not their superior. If you start early enough, you can build a reputation of a person who is genuinely interested in getting feedback and that can be very helpful later on.

As I said before, these are just some of many qualities a good manager should have, but the qualities listed here are the ones that matter the most to me. How about you? What qualities are you looking for in a manager? Which ones matter to you?

Let me know your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you.

Keep learning and growing.

Sneza

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